In traditional coaching, you will often hear a lot about quantum leaps. It is the idea that as you start working on what you love, you will literally jump ahead and surpass everything you thought you could do. Who wouldn’t love this idea? A little work and maximum return.
This idea was a big selling point for me, just as it is for many others. Every program I purchased promised me huge results if I put in the work. Quantum leaps. I’m a hard worker, I’ll put in the work. Purchase after purchase I was ready to change my life.
Over the course of the next year, it seemed that every step I took was a step in thick mud. It would be so difficult at times, I felt that I wasn’t even moving. Where were the quantum leaps that everyone talked about? I was dreaming big, in fact my dreams were getting bigger and bigger.
I remember reading an article by Jason Fried in the middle of this about a person who had opened a coffee shop. The writer had gone in to the shop and visited with the business owner who talked the whole time about how many stores he wanted, how big he wanted to get, and what he wanted for revenue. The writer then explained that the coffee shop owner had it wrong – he needed to focus on his one shop, the day he was currently in. He needed to work on the problems that he was currently facing, learn how to fix them all, then, and only then, he should move on to the next big thing.
I read this article and was so annoyed at it! It was OPPOSITE of everything I had been taught by the “traditional coaching world.” I told my husband how wrong this writer was, but for some reason I kept that article…probably to be able to prove him wrong at some point.
After the year of trudging through mud, I realized how RIGHT the writer was. My dreams would get so big in my mind, that they didn’t encourage me…they frustrated me, angered me, and made me jealous of anyone’s successes. It was the complete opposite of what I was told my dreams would do. I became much more aware of how my life was not the same as my dreams, and I wasn’t encouraged by that thought. However, when I focused on the small steps, on things I could control in the present, I was much happier. I was still working toward my goal, but my goal was in the background. My focus turned to the present.
Quantum leaps do happen! Miracles happen when you least expect it! But momentum often GROWS from the smallest of steps…done over and over again.
When we advise a client do something small that they don’t yet see creating an impact, sometimes they get frustrated that we aren’t working on helping them make their millions. They don’t realize that we are helping them. They need to be successful in the little things everyday and build momentum, that is when it happens for them. That’s when it will happen for you. That’s when it happens for all of us.
We need to stop expecting the quantum leaps to happen immediately for us, especially if we haven’t done the work. We all must put in the time, the sweat, the tears, and doubts, the fears, the excitement. It really is about finding the joy in today.