“Let it roll off your back.”
I can’t tell you the number of times I would hear this growing up. Every time I would get frustrated or anxious, I would be told, “Jess- let it roll off your back.” I hated this saying.
What does that even mean to let it roll off your back? How do you let go of feelings that are so strong? “Don’t let it bother you” and “it will all work out” were the responses.
But I didn’t know HOW to do that. Until now. I want to share my understanding of this and, while it is something that I continue to work at, I now know how to use in my life.
The saying comes from a principle which is governed by a Universal Law – the Law of Non-Resistance. I had heard about it in many books and podcasts that I had been studying, but my true understanding came from Working with the Law, by Raymond Holliwell.
He gives a beautiful analogy of a small stream that, at first, is met with obstacle after obstacle as it attempts to meet and join with a bigger stream or river. It bumps into rocks, big clumps of dirt or leaves, branches, bushes, and trees. However, instead of trying to fight the rock or tree and get it to move, it pays those things little attention and moves around them.
Yes, there are a lot of things the small stream must overcome at the beginning, but it persists. It moves almost effortlessly around items in its path, gaining strength and speed.
This is what it means to let a situation “roll off your back,” “don’t let it bother you,” and “it will all work out.”
We are going to be met with obstacles in life, frustrations, and situations that aren’t ideal. However, we should pay them no mind, move around them, and reach for something better. Do not even entertain why that situation is bad or how hard you are fighting it – doing this is the same as the small stream trying to push the rock out of the way instead of swiftly moving around it.
- Address the issue being careful to not become emotionally involved with it.
- Quickly spend a few moments taking deep breaths and relaxing the muscles in your body.
- Imagine your goal and what you are trying to build. Do not focus on that which doesn’t build your dreams.
I often hear of people who want more money but state that they are working to “pay the debt,” “living on a tight budget,” “working hard to make ends meet,” and the like. These are the rocks and trees in our path. As a small stream, you won’t move them, so move around them. Do not focus on them. Reach for something better. Keep your mind entertained with abundance, not lack. Yes, pay your bills, but do not dwell on them. Just as the stream hits up against the rock, you will have to pay your debts, but pay them quickly and then reach for a better thought to occupy your mind.
“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.” – Buddha
The small stream will join with other bodies of water and will get bigger and stronger. So will we if we persist. What then happens to the rocks that were once so cumbersome? They are at the bottom of the river, and the river doesn’t even notice them.
I get it now, I get the sayings. It takes daily effort to use the Law of Non-resistance, but it feels so good to reach for something better.
Here’s to your success ~
Dr. Jessica and Jeramy Belnap
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