“How long until we get there mom? This is so BORING!”
If you are a parent or if you have ever been around children, you have heard this cry of agony. But can we blame them? Let me explain….
Our reality (what we see, where we live, what we do) is boring. Neighborhoods are full of cookie cutter houses, roads that line up, trends and colors that are the same everywhere else. BORING.
We drive the same roads, see the same things, eat at the same places. BORING.
We go on vacation to “mix it up” and can have moments of excitement and awe, but we quickly go back to doing what we always do throughout the day. BORING.
In order to give ourselves a rush, we watch T.V. or kids play video games. An alternate reality to break up the monotony. But those are fairly predictable as well. Think about television for a moment. When I was a young girl, I remember watching Crocodile Dundee. The cuss words were bleeped out. When we saw it on our DVR a few weeks ago I became excited and we recorded it. We sat down to watch it with our kids, and the cuss words were not bleeped out. They were there, plain as day.
The WOW Factor
Things over time have had to produce a WOW factor, and so many shows have added sex, drugs, and cussing to keep us entertained. Otherwise they would be… you guessed it… BORING.
I was watching a woman on a Facebook video discuss how important it was to become a futuristic thinker if you want to become a top level speaker. “You have to create a WOW factor,” she said.
What a tall order to fill! No wonder we push more anti-depressants than ever before! No wonder we don’t even try at new things. No wonder we give up quickly. How in the WORLD are we all supposed to get this WOW factor? It sounds daunting and unattainable.
I remember when my WOW factor was being sent outside to play and use my imagination. If we found a stick that looked like a weapon, then it was a big day.
Listening to so many speakers and coaches today, I struggle often to feel that I measure up. How do you even compete with these people who are running 90 miles an hour and seem invincible? Their Instagram pictures don’t show their real life, their Facebook stories are only a portion of the truth… and yet we go back on to social media to see what else these “elite” people are doing, meanwhile feeling worse about ourselves.
Here is the secret. I’m going to tell you right now why you can do what you want and why people want to hear from you. And how to ensure that you are never BORING.
Your WOW Factor
You don’t need to create a WOW factor. You ARE the WOW factor! The whole you. Every part of you.
The problem is that we have been squashing the imperfections, insecurities and inequalities that we see in ourselves to try to make us look more like the elite. But those of us in the seats, watching your show, we didn’t pay to see them. We came to see all of you. That is what makes the show GREAT! That is what makes the show a standing ovation. That is what makes people come back for more and more. We don’t want to see you when you are invincible. We want to see you fail and get up. We want to see you try again. We want to cheer for the underdog because deep down that’s who we feel that we really are.
It’s not about needing to have all of these wonderful qualities and hiding everything else. It’s about showing up and showing what you have and who you are.
Here I am.
I want to be a speaker/writer/and coach more than anything…and yet I constantly deal with the thought that I may not be good enough.
I still get nervous when I get up to speak or lecture.
I cry…A LOT.
I struggle with the fact that I wanted more kids when I was little and have had no desire for kids after two. Sometimes I ask God why He didn’t think I was good enough to have more than 2.
I go between faith and doubt all the time.
I will stand beside you and be fiercely loyal.
I am a hard worker.
I struggle playing games with my kids, I am just not very interested in it.
I have realized that there is a VERY fine line between what I want and being prideful.
I love carbs and require something sweet after lunch and dinner.
I have been struggling with working so much and not doing what I love to do.
Who are you?
It’s time to show up and be seen. It is what makes you great. It’s what will keep us all feeling alive.
P.S. Want to learn more? Check out my book, If a Seed Can Do It: Recognizing Your Potential and Becoming Who You Want to Be